A vast empire in a distant land, a beloved king with a beautiful daughter and a handsome prince, heir to the throne, the story has the makings of a beautiful fairy tale, but it is a horror story. The kingdom of Israel was under the reign of King David and the eldest son of the handsome prince of David, Amnon, that this is so in love with his half sister Tamar be. Found in 2 Samuel 13, smack dab between the story of David with Bathsheba and the revolt of David's sons against theirFather is the passage of the princess rape Tamar.Nathan the prophet David said that "the sword will never leave your family" only a few chapters earlier, and spoke of the turmoil that would erupt into the royal family because of his sin. The decoding of the empire began with this rape.
It started with heartache over his sister Tamar was Amnon. He complained that his cousin, Jonadab he could not do anything because she was a virgin. Jonadab concocted aterrible plan, Amnon performed. Jonadab advised Amnon and Tamar disease application to simulate the presence of the king. King David did not deny all of his eldest son, of course, the request was granted Amnon.
Tamar, the dutiful daughter, his brother came to prepare a meal to him the house, which had refused to eat. Instead, he told to leave all his servants and said, "Tamar, Why do not you go the food here to me in my room I'm too weak to eat alone so I need yourto help. "Tamar brought the food in his bedroom. Suddenly grabbed Tamar and Amnon asked them to join him in bed.
Startled, Tamar refused his offer begging: "Do not make me, my brother is such a thing is not in Israel. Do not do evil. What about me? Where can I get rid of my shame, and what about you, you For one of the fools in Israel wrong please speak to the king. (. 13:12-13, NIV), does not prevent me from it, married to you "plea fell Tamarin a vacuum. And because Amnon is "stronger than them," he raped her (18:14).
There are some interesting things that can be drawn from the declaration of emotional Tamar. When Tamar said he would not do such things in Israel, spoke of the right of a man having sex with his sister prohibited. (Lev. 18: 9, 11) in disgrace, he could either be put to death or to such a relationship as "marriage" because it was not a virgin. However,Tamar said then that the king would Amnon to marry her, which was prohibited by law (Lev. 20:17; .. Dt 27:22) Maybe Tamar hoped, so they could flee, or they thought this would keep Amnon for the moment, as David bent the law to his children. Whatever the reason, ignored the declaration Tamar.
Tamar reason cuts the heart of every girl or woman who sexually abused. Please do not do that to me, do not take from me. But often, because a man is stronger thanWife gets violent, take what is not his. The woman is often left alone and confused, picking up the pieces of what he thought was a good life.
After Amnon raped his sister, he sent her from his house and said, 'Take this out of here! " Tamar also called for justice on their behalf and asked: "No, I leave you would be more unjust, what you did for me" (13:16). The modern women recoil at this point wonder why Tamar would like to keep the company onher rapist. But in the Jewish culture at that time the woman had been raped, as her husband. Young girls and boys have been victims of rape were not only robbed of their innocence, but their hope, in addition to marriage. The Jewish law made a provision for these women, if a man rapes a virgin, he was required to take the girl to woman (Deut. 22:28-29).
The love I felt for the first Amnon raped Tamar became angry after the rape of Tamar was sent away in disgrace and Sun. Ashamed The Bible says, then put ashes on my head, tore the ornamented robe that brought the real virgin daughters, and complained loudly, all the signs of extreme pain. As soon as the full brother of Tamar Absalom came to them, believed that what had happened. He said that talk of an accident, he did calm. It was then placed in the house of Absalom and lived "a desolate woman" (13:20). This is the last mention of Tamar in the Bible who lived the rest of his days as a desolateDonna.
I can imagine that Tamar, the beautiful young daughter of King David and was promising when it came to marriage. How many adolescents may have dreamed of Prince Charming, her marriage, children and their future. But in an instant, his dreams collapsed around them. It does not mention how old Tamar was at this point, but it was probably in his early to mid-teens for teens. Full of hope, full of promise, full of life, andthen deserted.
Unfortunately, over time Tamar lived, rape of women is not a serious crime. Of course, God had laws against them, but because women have been humiliated and treated as property, rape was not as brutal and damaging to the culture seen. But women who have suffered the shame felt warm on her cheeks. He had never felt safe again, some even were publicly scorned. has been kept secret since the rape of Tamar, many assumed that Tamar stayed willingly with Amnon or someone else. Theirornamental dress of virginity was gone, I'm sure that the entries were running rampant.
King David received no word rape Tamar and was furious as any father will do if his daughter were injured. Rather justice for Tamar, David has done nothing. E 'Absalom was the patient has waited for two years before killed Amnon for raping his sister. E 'Absalom, who eventually turned against the father was out and slept with David's concubines on the palace veranda for all Israel to see. Not onlyTamar was inaction David, Absalom, the next candidate for the throne, was also hit.
The story of Tamar is terrible and hard to read, especially considering that they felt the true emotion and pure must Tamar. But this story is in the Bible to prove not only the destruction of the house of David, but to teach readers about rape for unloved women who are victims of sexual abuse, they are not alone in showing feelings of shame, and desolate. Unfortunately, the women in your ministry,both young workers and students have been or are victims of rape or sexual assault. While you may not know that a student or young worker who is a victim of sexual violence was at this point to take immediate, is a useful reminder that rape was common in the Bible. Here are a few things can drag the young workers from the story of Tamar, that universal service is the experience of women being raped in prison.
* Tamar virginity and purity are at risk. Who is a virgin whento be raped virgin is true, even if it can not be a physicist. The real virginity is a spiritual issue. No one can take it away.
* Tamar was emotional pain. She showed her deep sorrow on his head with ashes and complaints aloud, is a sign of mourning. It was designed as a "sad and bitter woman" in the Bible message. Desolate can mean sex ever again, or it may mean that they never recovered only after they had been raped.
Although there is no time limit to pain, and arape victims should be allowed their anger, sadness, comment, fear and other emotions, free will, God to heal her child. He does not want his daughters to empty physically, emotionally or mentally. He wants to fill the void that can restore his daughter cover her shame and completely, as only he. What man has taken away, God, and he desperately yearns for his children for comfort. Create your youth worker or teen to the God who weeps with his daughters.
* Pain of Tamarwas also physically. Tamar ornamental garments tear is significant because it shows how his life has been torn, but also because the vagina is torn and bleeding from a potentially violent rape. If a female virgin has sex for the first time often the hymen (a thin layer of tissue around the opening of the vagina of a woman) is broken. During the hymen for other reasons, may be torn, including harassment, in the course of the story of a woman's virginity was determined by the fact thatthe hymen is intact.
Women, especially young bleed, or may be injured by sex, sex and more violent. A young worker or student who can be raped even regular trips to the gynecologist, which can be scary. Your health may still be interested if you get an STD, severe vaginal lesions or other brutal treatments.
* Tamar was ready for marriage and may even have suspected of being promiscuous. How many times have we heard people say that she was a woman "to bebitch raped "by other students in school?" No Means No, whenever all the time. No exceptions, after a girl in my former youth ministry has been raped, she was called. state "Although they can be a bit 'of flirting, he said, and was not bad though.
There are girls who want to get married and raped lead fulfilling lives that do not necessarily live "desolate women." Girls and women who often feel raped "damaged and desecrated." They feel incapable of relationships and even marriage. This issimply not true, but the girls need to carry these feelings can last for years to work. The advice is essential to achieve a semblance of a life in complete emotional rape survivor.
* Tamar was not authorized to talk about the rape. Tamar was his brother, Absalom said, "Shut up ... Do not take this matter to heart, "Perhaps it is not simply want to worry about the situation because he avenged his honor (18:20). Killing Amnon, or maybe they just do not know how to react. It is not knownWhen Tamar was never allowed to talk about his close confidant rape, it seems at this point is denied the opportunity to tell their story. He had to tell his story and also receive support from others who may have raped her.
* Tamar was denied justice. David, king of Israel was punished Amnon for violating his daughter, but in refusing to do so, he failed as a king and a father. Although Absalom killed Amnon, he may have seen the rape of Tamar as a slight against himand defended his honor, too. Victims of rape should never be justice denied. Again and again God speaks as a God of justice, injustice, hate (Ps. 09:16, 11:17, 33:5, is 30:18, 61:8 ..)
Although it has never Tamar in the Bible talks about a possible bright spark in their lives can also be found in 2 Samuel. Verse 14:27 says that Absalom, father of three sons and a beautiful daughter whom he called Tamar. Ironically, the names of the children of Absalom are not mentioned,Only his daughter Tamar. Although the passage does not say that her niece was named Tamar, I would like to believe. Despite all her pain and anguish, I'd be a happy ending for Tamar and is perhaps in the form of his nephew lot '. While Tamar can not have lived happily ever after in his lifetime, he was treated by his brother (until his death in any case) and spend time with his nephew and niece.
Sometimes I wish that every story is a fairy tale, but too oftenGirls' dreams are shattered by harsh reality. Rape is like reaching across time, space and culture for millions of women's influence in history. It can be anyone, even the daughter of a powerful king that happen in a kingdom of this world alive. But the father always wants justice for her son and will never permit her to be a barren woman.
