No doubt it is your best friend. They shared everything about your life and your husband with her. She knows the exact size of his penis, the last time you had sex and how he and rates of your past lovers. It is his trust implicitly, and deep, just the thought of them betraying your trust non-conceivable, because in your heart, would never intentionally hurt that I know.
You can borrow your favorite dress and necklace your grandmother's late, butone thing that is off limits is your man. The main difference between your best friend and your man is that you share your body with him and he owns a piece of your heart. He arouses a part of your being that no woman could ever touch. You believe in him and his words whispered ever so gently that can only be heard by you. You love them both dearly, but your best friend and your man loving each other is simply out of bounds.
So how do you set boundaries for two entities of your life that you love so much? First, realize that men are supposed to be attracted to women and visa versa. There are no exceptions. It is in the essence of his nature to be smitten by the shapeliness of a woman's body, to become spellbound by her scent and magnetized by her cleavage. For most men there are internal biological and spiritual boundaries that curb them from being attracted to relatives and friends. But sometimes we put too much faith in external laws rather than respecting the natural laws of human nature.
Intellectually, most women understand that sleep faithless friend of a male partner. But emotionally, some of us are not our own role in relation to this type of betrayal. Here are eight tips on how to set boundaries between your best friend and your husband.
Girlfriend Etiquette
1. Mothers have told us over the years that if a woman is consistent in the house is for people or business. There is a place and timefor girl-talk. No woman should be at your home visiting during the work week while you are preparing meals or spending quality time with your husband or boyfriend. Unless she is invited to dinner with a male partner or you are fixing her up with a male friend your home is sacred and should be respected as such. Pay attention to your own behavior with your female friends. Are family members putting on their pajamas while you are there? Yawning? Mentioning how late it is or how sleepy they are? Catch a hint.
2. When you are un-escorted by a male partner you should be conscious of the message you are sending to your friend's male partner. Is your skirt extremely short, cleavage showing, belly out, nipples showing?. Come now ladies, do you present yourself in a manner that shows respect to your girlfriend? Or do you blame her male partner for not controlling himself or acting like a "dog?" Do you bring up inappropriate conversation about sex and your male partners? What vibes are you sending out? We are not talking about male responsibility here, we are talking about being aware of human nature. It is okay to dress provocative when you and your girlfriend are with a male partners because the male energy between the two men will have balancing effect.
3. Don't invite yourself along as a third wheel on your friend's vacations, movies, dinners or concerts with her male partner. Remember, she loves you very much, chances are she will say yes. Be considerate of their relationship and its the same respect and space you want and need. No matter how long the couple is together, it is likely that her husband is not eager to share with you the attention of his wife.
4. When he does not call your friend at home you are looking for (in extreme conditions) should be slightly warm, talking on the phone. Your friend should not be at the heart of your lover's quarrels and spats. And 'your ace-Boon-coon, not your friend.Period. Loyalty is very difficult if there is not an underlying single agenda. Your friend knows about the cute guy who you almost gave your number to. The only thing she has in common with your man is YOU. One thing leads to another, don't set yourself up for a three-way-relationship.
5. Don't think that your man would not be attracted to your friends because you are more attractive than they are. What makes a person attractive is very subjective. Mother has always said: It is not the Woman who says openly that he likes and compliments her appearance that she is worried, but the woman who is unattractive and constantly asks himself is down you should be concerned. This can throw away the location of its fragrance and denies his own attraction to be on it. Yes, you can trust your man. He is around beautiful women all day. Remember that it is a man first and a second man. They did not touch fire to know that can burn. Trust that hewill honor and respect your relationship, but don't be naive.
6. Should you tell her if you know that her male partner is coming on to you and you have done nothing to solicit this type of behavior? Follow your heart. Limit contact with her when she is spending time with her man. Intuitively she knows, don't become the scapegoat for her relationship.
7. Watch what you tell your man about your girlfriends ladies. He doesn't need to know the size of her vagina, what the guys at work say about her and any of the details of her personal life. Period. Think about some of things that you have shared with your man about your girlfriend, thinking that he will see her as a "tramp." This will back fire. Giving him this information can make her more interesting and appealing. Secondly, stop sharing with your girlfriends information about your man's sexual technique. You have to be responsible for setting boundaries, this is not about trust. When you tell your friends everything about the intimacy between your man and yourself, you exploit the sacredness of the bond between your man and yourself. Many times our friends do not cross our boundaries, we let them in.
8. If you know in your heart that you are attracted to your friend's male partner. Be honest with yourself and don't seek opportunities and excuses to be around him, unless you are willing to sacrifice the friendship. If you know that he is attracted to you distance yourself from him. It is not the mere sex that makes becoming involved with a friend's mate so heinous, it is the loyalty, love and trust that your friend has bestowed upon you that is shattered. When a woman shares her deepest, darkest, most intimate secrets with you, she trusts that you will not use it against her to usurp her man.
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