Steps to get through the difficult family

My pregnant daughter has called me to complain (again) to the paternal grandmother. This is a call a day. My son called me from work: "Mom, we can not see Aunt Ila and Lucas, and may even leave his apartment?" Our grandson does not make a habit of phoning me to say but he did his mother was not down to visit this time, if they were to be with her. My sister-in-law for a hotel room appeared.

Every family has a member that the rest of the clan rubs the wrongWay. I'm pretty sure it's a sort of biblical rule, if not, then all countries must be the Statute by the federal government.

Now I'm not a psychologist or a family counselor, but now because of my two wonderful adult children, I have enough to give advice on therapy to deal with difficult people. Especially those that we (have to or on behalf of a loved one) to love.

1. Choose your battles CAREFULLY. Decide what you can ignore andwhat can not. For example: I hate when people are not honest. I do not care if you agree with me. I do not care if I do not like. But I will not tolerate duplicity. Tell me the truth. Some people laundering money or personal dress code. No matter what ever you choose to learn every little nitpicky event and scream. Oh, and if you want to go to war, it's quiet. I told my deep voice or even silence is a very powerful tool to fix a problem area.

2. Remain the mostPOSSIBLE. That's right. There is always another room, someone else can speak or even learning of the event, if you are low on the behavior of the main culprit was.

3. Use these two sentences, and some of the problems END. My husband, I learned these words from a seminar on family therapy, and she became our favorite refutations in youth: No matter ... / But ...
Now I know this sounds simple, but this picture: teen does not want to do homeworkand begins to cry.
Answer: No matter how much you hate the English, you need to do the assignment.
Or hate your mother-in-law, which does not take her on vacation. You reply, but our plans are complete and no go.

4. If you have nothing new to add. This is our third favorite for the "return" to the # 3 If the challenger rebutted simply say: I heard what he had to say, if you need to add anything new, we're done.

Then justWalk, read a book / newspaper, a phone call or in the bathroom. The key steps of this work is a response not to respond.

Oh, I got advice on my daughter, pregnant at the time.

Sarah, I know your grandmother is very interested, but for your sake, father and aunt, you must contact you for a visit. I have heard of what you do not like when we are not new, your long list of complaints do you want to add.

I added, which isreally good practice, you have to worry about the two years that is going to take to throw a tantrum. Stay calm, quiet and ignore bad behavior. It goes away eventually.